I am tired. I am grumpy. I am angry. I am frustrated, fed-up, let-down, irate, and disgruntled.
When I say, “I am” and then add a descriptor after it, it is almost as if I asscribe that emotion permanently to myself. “I am frustrated” means that part of me will always be frustrated. Frustration becomes a permanent state. Like a stamp, marking me as such. Obviously, overcoming frustration becomes much more difficult if I say, “I am frustrated.”
What if, instead, I say, “I feel frustrated.” No longer have I linked my identity with my emotion. When I feel something, I immediately acknowledge that the feeling will pass. I feel angry. Well, tomorrow I will probably not feel angry. There is a transience to feeling. I may feel differently in five minutes, but I am who I am until I die.
Just replacing “I am” with “I feel” when expressing negative emtions has helepd me to let go of those emotions more quickly.
I AM intrigued by the power of words!